Before meeting up with my date, I have checked utopia-asia.com, my ultimate gay guide. To my surprise, Brunei was not listed in it. How possible was that!
Oh yes ... that is possible. From my date, I managed to gather that Brunei does not have any venue for recreation activity for gay men (except for a lane in ‘bandar’ where the transvestites hang out). Most of Bruneian meets other men through internet. Most of them would prefer to meet foreigner than local.
I think the two main reasons why they only want to meet foreigners are;
- The country is too small and most of them are closeted, the risk of being ‘discovered’ is being minimised.
- Most of the local gay men are still staying with their family. Therefore, to find a place for sex with fellow local would be a hassle. Whereas for a foreigner, he would be already be staying in a hotel.