Brunei Oh! Brunei

My second trip to Brunei was predictable, spending most the time eating at all different places. I had my usual kolo mee, nasi goreng corned beef and soto. However, I was adamant to find out more about the life of gay men in Brunei because on my first trip I did not. Even though I had very little time to myself, I managed to go out for a date with a charming Bruneian whom I met on G4M.

Before meeting up with my date, I have checked utopia-asia.com, my ultimate gay guide. To my surprise, Brunei was not listed in it. How possible was that!

Oh yes ... that is possible. From my date, I managed to gather that Brunei does not have any venue for recreation activity for gay men (except for a lane in ‘bandar’ where the transvestites hang out). Most of Bruneian meets other men through internet. Most of them would prefer to meet foreigner than local.

I think the two main reasons why they only want to meet foreigners are;

1. The country is too small and most of them are closeted, the risk of being ‘discovered’ is being minimised.
2. Most of the local gay men are still staying with their family. Therefore, to find a place for sex with fellow local would be a hassle. Whereas for a foreigner, he would be already be staying in a hotel.

So if you are thinking of travelling to Brunei, do inform the Bruneian well in advance on the internet. I sure you will be welcome there. Do try to bring your laptop along with you. Thank gowd to technology!