Malawi gay couple pardon

A gay couple jailed in Malawi after getting engaged have been pardoned by President Bingu wa Mutharika.

To read on at BBC News.

Ricky Martin is Gay

On 29 March, 2010, Ricky Martin publicly revealed his sexuality, saying, “I am proud to say that I am a fortunate homosexual man. I am very blessed to be who I am.” …. And about time too!

It was so irony to get this news in the morning because just last night I was chatting with my partner of how closeted gay men deal with their frustration. They would excessively indulge themselves in either food, drinks, hobbies, religion or other things that they can divert their mind on. On Oprah there was this married guy who lost weight in hundreds of pounds and gained them all back again, a constant major battle with his weight. I sincerely think the real problem is that he is gay. A ‘straight’ friend of mine relentlessly drowned himself in alcohol. The rest of the gang suspects that he is gay and is not able to deal it. A relative of mine who is married with kids, and whom I know is gay, spends most of his free time on the golf course. Do these indulgences address the real issue? For how long can one suppress it, constantly fighting with oneself and living in a lie?

I remember during my student time, there was this retiree who was like a fixture and fitting at a gay bar that I frequented. Everyone there knew his story. After his retirement, he outed himself with his family. His wife left him after a messy divorce. His only son did want to talk to him because of the shame. At the age of 60+, he was old and lonely with very little retirement money left from his messy divorce. The only thing left for him to do was to spend most his time in that gay bar ogling over the young beautiful boys.

Not wanting to be like this guy, I came out to my friends. I was 25 years old then. I realised that I had wasted a third of my life living in a lie and I was not planning to waste the other two third.

At the age of 38, Ricky Martin finally came out to the world. I salute him and I do hope that he enjoys the rest of his life to the fullest with his adopted twin sons.

Prayers for Bobby

Last weekend, I watched this amazingly moving movie on relationship of parent and gay son at a Malaysian gay activist movement as part of their 'Coming Out programme'. I highly recommend all gays to watch this if they plan to come out. Well done to Pang and friends at Seksualiti Merdeka!

First Bollywood's Gay Kiss

I have to say that Bollywood has gone really prgressive. In the movie Dunno Y will protray the first Bollywood's gay kiss. Must catch this movie in May.

Man In Uniform

Recently, this picture was sent to me for a laugh but it reminds me of my own personal experience a few years ago. I was at the airport and was about to fly back to K.L. As usual all passengers have to go through stringent security. At the metal detector, I removed everything on me that was metal and put in my bag to be examined under the x-ray. Unfortunately, the metal detector still beeped as I passed through it. A stern looking security man came around and did a body search on me. Funnily, he took his time and was overly physical doing it, especially around the crouch area. I must say, he, being local at the land I was at, did look damn hot in that bloody tight uniform and was very macho with a pair of sexy piercing eyes. I thought nothing of it but just smiled at him. He glared at me with a very strict authoritarian look.

After going through the body search incident, I had plenty of time before boarding. I browsed around the duty-free shops and then I went for a puff at the smoking section. As I was about to finish my cigarette, the same security man who did the body search on me walked next to the smoking section. Through the window he saw me and again gave me the same piercing look. Again, all I managed was a sincere smile. After my cigarette, I went straight to the toilet, which was not far away from the smoking section. I went to the urinal at the far end of the toilet. To my surprise, the same security man came and took the urinal next to me. There were so many urinals in the toilet and yet he still wanted to take a leak next to me. To my surprise, the security man was actually checking me out. You are kidding me right! I just stood still. He angled himself so that he was showing me his. He was definitely excited. I can’t believe my luck! After looking around for clearance, he cautiously reached out for my dick and stroked me. I was in heaven.

He then gave me an indication to go to the cubicle. I was still in the dazed. He zipped up and led the way into the cubicle. Obviously, I followed him even thought I was so fucking nervous. Locked in the cubicle, he unzipped me and then he stroked me again. When I about to reach down for his zipper, he abruptly stopped me with his hand. He looked at me and said with a smug, ‘Fifty buck first and then we can do it.’

W.T.F.!!!