Friday, March 17, 2006

I did my BEST!

I had a relationship. At the beginning of the relationship, I was a bit spectical of the relationship. Me being the older one and he being the much younger one. I knew how it was to be young and free. I had my own fair share of experiences. I just did not believed that the relationship would work. But he insisted that it was what he wanted and convinced me that he was truly in love with me. I slowly fell for it and did fall in LOVE with him. This was so so easy for both of us as both of us share so much things in commom and also not forgetting we had wonderful love-making sessions.

I was so much in LOVE with him that I decided to give him my all for the relationship. I took the risk of introducing him to my family as my boyfriend and he was accepted, eventhough with great difficulty. He was the first boyfriend that I ever declared to my whole family. I just wanted him to be part of my family.

When any occasion arised, I made sure that I gave him a gift, however big or small it is. I knew I could not just cherished him with gifts, I then decided to give him what he wanted the most, his dream. I had to halt my own dream for him and adopt his dream as my dream. It was hard for both of us as the dream involved intricate power of persuation from many parties and many months of full-time work to materialise it. We finally materialised him dream and I was so happy for him. I thought I had won him heart totally to infinity and beyond.

But as time became my witness, this was not true. Being young, he knew he had better opportunity with new encounters. He just felt he should kept his options open till the time is right. Of course, I was not happy with it. We broke off.

We still meet up occationally and because I was still very much in love with him, I asked him if there is any other improvement that I could do for him to come back to me and be faithful. He told me that he wanted a beautiful body boyfriend.

And that is was I did, a new body! My new daily routine was to making sure that I was on a very strict diet and went to the gym regularly with extensive workout to tone down and shape up, all in the name of him. I must say I did acheived my goal.

I then arranged for a date with him just to show off my new body and was hoping that he would change his mind. Before meeting him, I made sure that I dressed up to emphasise my new change. We did meet up and he did realise my new body. I asked him if he like the new me and he then told me that he did not like men who are too buff up. What the FUCK!!!!

I guess I did my best but my best was not good enough.

Monday, February 13, 2006

Valentine Day

It was all over the media. One can't ignore it even if one tried to do so. It was the St. Valentine Day itself.

So many had woo their love one on this day. Ordered roses, bought expensive chocolates, dined at fine restaurants and some proposed marriage on this romantic day. This is regardless of straight relationship or gay relationship, they all want to celebrate this V day.

But I have a funny story to tell.

I wanted to surprise my hansome potential boyfriend on this Valentine day. He is so my type and I wanted it to be perfect for him. It was planned that this is the nite I wanted to ask him formally for a long-term-relationship. I had made booking at a beautiful Italian restaurant. It was expensive but I was sure that it will worth every penny that I spent on it. I also bought red roses and a small box of expensive chocolate for him. I was so excited for the night to come.

I told him to meet at the city centre as the restaurant was walking distance from our meeting point. He knew we were on a Valentine date but he thought we were just going to have a simple dinner at the cafe around that area. When I met him, i gave him the roses and the chocolate. He was so embarassed as we were in the public. I swear his face nearly went red. Damn! That was a bad move. But he was nice enough to hide his embarassment and managed to pull a smile for me.

We then walked pass the cafes there. He asked me if we were having dinner or not, and I told him I have made a reservation at a restaurant a bit further down the road. He was OK with it. At the restaurant, we were ushed to our table. It was a none smoking table and hence it was in the centre of the restaurant. A table set for two with candle lights. A romantic setting but as we sit down we realised everyone was staring at us. Even the waiters were grinning at us. We were the only boy-date-boy in the centre of the restaurant and the other tables were all boy-date-girl. We were the centre of attention. My boy friend was so so embarassed now and he went red all the way. Damn again!

We had to finish our dinner quickly and had to leave the restaurant before dessert. We went out of the restaurant so fast that I did not managed to propose to him of the long-term-relationship with me. Damn again and again!

Man ... my romantic plan gone wrong and my wallet gone burst!

Thursday, February 09, 2006

Cruel to be kind

It is amazing how difficult it is to hook up with someone for a date. But I found it is more difficult to un-hook oneself from it. How do one tell that person that one do not want to do anything that the person any more?

He is a nice guy and all but definitely not my type! What reason do I tell him for him to stop the sms-es and calls throughout the day till wee hour of the morning? One fact for sure is that I never uttered a word on me missing him and yet he goes on and on and on and on. Damn! What I got myself into. The word sayang (darling) is forever in his sms.

Earlier before dating, I told him that I was already in a relationship and he was the few men I was seeing on the side. He was ok with it as long as he get to see me once in while. We went dating a few time and I knew it was not working. I then told him that my boyfriend found out and I need to patch the relationship. He said he understood but he said he will wait for me still. I said I will not be calling or sms him any more but he will wait. Obviously, ignoring the calls and sms-es was the best remedy. But he assumed that I was too busy with my boyfriend and he would wait FOREVER! He stills sms .... oh my gowd!

I think I have to just hurt his feeling. I have to be cruel to be kind!

Monday, February 06, 2006

Long Holiday

Malaysia and her holidays! So many of them which sometime one wonders how one works in this country. This does not stop here. Each states has also its own holidays too. Due to this, last week was where both national holidays and state holidays met. From Monday to Thursday was declared official holidays for The State of Federal Territory. Some companys decided to take the whole week off!

I am generally not affected by this holiday thingy because I work free-lance from home. Holiday or no holiday mean nothing to me but it did affect my social life for last week.

One would assumed that most of the hard working city folks would take this opportunity to go off for a holiday to some exotic place. Surprisingly, the city was still happening. I went for gatherings, luncheon, dinners, gallery opening, partys, clubbing and most importantly DATES! Yup, dates ... with 4 different guys of different background. All 4 were availables and I had to scheduled them so thightly cuz my other social activities and obligation.

A friend of mine was so happy for me. He told me that after my break-up in my recent relationship, this is what i need i.e. to be back into the game. He also reminded me that St. Valentine's Day is just round the bent and I had a wide selection to choose from. Even thought I was not a big fan of celebrating V Day but I was agreeing with him.

Planning of the week schedule was crucial for all to run smooth. First had to slot the social obligation and followed slots for my dates. Then the other small uneventful social calls.

Anyway, the chronological events of last week was as follow;

Friday 27 January 2006
5.30pm - 8.00 pm
Date with Guy A, Accountant, 28 yrs old. He came over to my house. He was so so manja (affectionate). He had to be back early cuz he was leaving for Perak the next day. Had a great time.

9.00 pm - 2.30 am
Off to my gal friends house for card games with friends who were going off for holiday abroad for the week.

Saturday 28 January 2006
11.30pm - 3.30 pm
Date with Guy B, Assist. Manager of a Restaurant, 25 yrs old. Had lunch and we went to a sauna for a quickie. The reason why I don't want him back to my place is because this guy has fallen for me so so deeply. Calling me sayang (darling) and all. Not ready for that yet. I just wanna have fun!

5.30pm - 12.30am
Squash game with my dear friend. Great game it was. We had dinner outside and came back to my place to watch Tansamerica.

Sunday 29 January 2006
1.30am - 5.00am
Out clubbing with gay friends at Musictheque. Met one cute boy and danced with him. But did not ask for his number cuz I just got enough in my plate. Leave it for now. Will bump into him again if I play my card well. Also met my ex there but we were civiled to one another. I still find my ex to be damn cute. Hugged him for a short while for all time sake.

7.00pm - 11.00pm
Date with Guy C, Hairdresser 36 yrs old. Dinner at Bangsar and went back to his place. Sex was hot! But he was working the next day so I decided to go back to my own place after. I have no intention to wake up early the next day when he goes to work.

Monday 30 January 2006
Was supposed to have a BBQ do but was so lazy to go out! Spent time with my younger brother at home. He had his girlfriend over and I had time to know her better too.

8.00pm - 2.30am
At last managed to pull myself out from the comfort of my couch for the BBQ gay do at my friend place, a penthouse right smack in heart of the city with a 360 degree view of KL. When I arrived, everyone was still there. Plenty of food and beautiful young single boys. I just socialised casually and not 'fishing' at the young boys. One showed his interest but he was still a student at a local university and I thought he was a little bit under my age requirement.

Tuesday 31 January 2006
3.30pm - 10.30pm
Date with Guy D, Air Steward 37 yrs old. The date was at a sauna and dinner after. Can't bring him home too. He was also too clinging. He sms-ed so often. He even sms-ed me from UK and China when he was on the job. I only knew him for less than a week, he had already said that me miss me so much. WOW! And he is older than me.

Wednesday 1 February 2006
10.30 am - 7.30 pm
Had to wait for my dear friend to play squash. He had a very late nite the nite before and he only turned up at 2pm. While waiting for him, I met up with my neighbour who just got back home from his birthday trip in Manila. I also wanted to get Brokeback Mountain DVD him. As we were sitting at our cafe at our apartment, my dear friend came with thousands of apologies. We played squash and went out for late lunch. Bumped into the boy I met at Musictheque the saturday before. My dear friend asked for his number and he gave it. We came back to my place to watch Brokeback Mountain. Nice movie it was and my dear friend was near to tears.

8.30 pm - 12.30 pm 2 February 2006
My darling gay indian 'sister' had a small sit-down dinner at his place. Truely an indian experience from food to company. A quiet do but fun and informative.

Thursday 3 February 2006
1.00 pm - 9.00pm
Date with Guy A again. We had lunch and came back to my place. He was so romantic and nice. Even gave me a back message. I enjoyed him so much but before he left, he dropped the bomb on me. He has already have someone in his life and it was not another man but a woman. He was married!

Friday 4 February 2006
4.00 pm - 7.00pm
Date with Guy B. Again our date in the sauna. But I was already bored with him cuz he was already making plan of seeing his parent and a 'wedding'. Ya right! had to cut short the date by having a SOS from my neighbour.

9.00pm - 11.00pm
Followed my neighbour to one of our gay doctor friends house for dinner. His mother was there and had to be polite and straight-acting.

11.30pm - 2.30pm
Originally wanted to go to Frangi, gay nite on friday nite, but my neighbour and me were not in the mood. We went out for teh tarik to Hartamas Square instead with our gay stewards friends who were not flying.

Saturday 5 February 2006
10.00pm - 11.00pm
Date with Guy C. Had breakfast with him. Can't have any decent conversation with him other then about hairstylying or men. Am bored again. After that I rush to the pharmacist for my supplements. Was suppose to met up with my ex after but he fell from his backhandspring while training and hurted his neck!

2.00pm - 4.00pm
Had lunch with my neighbour, our doctor friend and a Sabahan gay friend at Bangsar. Bumped into my old collagemate. My friends were salivating him. So funny how I never did find him sexual or attractive at all and yet all three find him so gorgeous. This ex collagemate of mine never admit that he is gay to me but I frequently bumped into him at gay venues. I think it is just an unspoken thingy for both of us.

4.00pm - 7.00pm
Had a meeting with a potential client

8.30pm - 11.30pm
Went to a exhibition opening at my friend's gallery. Had my younger brother and his girl friend with me. Meet up with my beautiful gal friend and her friends there. We all went out for coffee after. One of my ex's friend turned up and joined us but as usual he was so afriad that I out-ed him cuz we were in a straight company.

Sunday
1.30am - 5.00am
Musictheque again with friends.

7.30pm - 9.00 pm
Invited to dinner by my other gay brother and his partner. Another small sit-down dinner of 5 people. So proper one lah and so BORING!

9.00pm - 3.00 pm
Gathering at my neighbour house to watch Juara Lagu 2005, an annual local song competition. Had a drag show at the tail-end of the nite!

That was my long week. But why do I bother writing about it down. To tell u that I had a packed week?!! No. But just to tell u that I had to planned my days with the slots of DATES in between.

Next question is .... Who is Mr. Valentine? To tell u the truth, NONE! Cuz none seems to cut the grid. Everyone of my date does not excite me in totality. Just a little bit here and a little there. But never a complete picture.

A friend once forwarded me a sms,'Do not look for the perfect one but to perfect the love with the not perfect one'. Does make sense to me but I JUST CAN'T!

Friday, January 20, 2006

Birthday Bash

I had it all planned. My birthday bash was gonna be at a nice posh bar on a roof top overlooking the KL Petronas twin tower. The theme for that night was Oriental. Beautiful pizzas and finger food were ordered with free flow drinks for the nite. Invitations to my selected friends were sent out and so is to my 2 potentials. Was hoping some magic gonna happen with either of them. I was so excited. It bloody better be cuz I am spending an obese amount for the nite!

Both of the potentials know that I am interested with them but both have not said a definite a yes or a no. I hanging on a string and could not make a decision. I need either one of them to make the first move. Call me conservative, call me the typical melayu boy but that is how I was brought up. So malu one! But I am sure my chance is higher with 2 potentials right?!

The actual night came. Full moon just floating above the twin towers. Such a perfect romantic setting. Everyone arrived in Chongsam (chinese attire) and one guy friend even wore a kimono with a fan. Memoirs of Geisha inspired him. Everyone had fun as the night went by. My 2 potentials were having fun too. I tried my best to have fun but in the end, my heart just could not. Neither the 2 potentials did not make any move at all. Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!

Wednesday, January 18, 2006

Sexually Compulsive Gay Men

A recent study by Jeffery Parsons, a New Yorker sex researcher, found there are 3 categories of sex addicts: The first group engaged in sex to alleviate negative feeling, anxiety, and stress. The second group was addicted as to the chase of actual sex - for them it was about the trill and excitement of the new catch. The third group, which he called "relationship obsessed," had sex with many men in hopes of landing Mr. Right, who would, as the fantasy goes, make everything ok.

The frustration bit of this report is that I fall into all the above categories. So how do i categorise myself?

Or probably I am in the last forgotten category i.e. A SLUT!

Monday, December 12, 2005

Single & Free Again

I have been in a relationship with this man for more than 2 years. He was older and professional. We seemed to make a nice couple. Both independent and all. We just needed each other for companionship. We stayed at our own place and never made plan to stay together. My work seemed to be taking over for the past months. He has his own set of problems. We meet less and less. I wanted full sex and he is too tired to have them. So, to cut the story short, we broke off a month ago.

Hu hu ... single again! I have this fanatasy that I could pick up man from any where and have my little fun. But still my work is piling up. Going out on the weekend seems to be more difficult. Weekdays seems a no no. How the hell do u think I can get a fuck?

I decided to heck it and force myself to go to a gay club. My friend was so happy to bring me along. We dance and dance and dance. Till I met this cute Kelantanese boy. Yup, lets go for the kill.

We exchange numbers. I thot I'll call him the next day. After club, me and my friend decided to to have teh tarik. But quite horny, I decided to give him a call. Offered him a ride home if he needed it. He said yes. YES!

After sending my friend home, I can't wait to get into the Kelatanese boy's pants. Don't know what happened, suddenly, someone bang my car from the rear at the traffic light. Damn! I was furious. When out and spoke to the culprit and his girlfriend. He gave me his mobile number and his IC no. I tried to call his phone but he said that he left his phone at home. He gave his girlfriend's no. instead. I called and her phone did rang. He told me that he will pay for the damage and i was happy with that. I don't want the boy to wait all nite, right?!

As I sent the boy back, I was already getting so horny. Managed to caress him. He asked me if I was interested in ONS or LTR. What?! I told him that ONS than we'll see lah. He was not happy with it. I just want SEX. He did brought me up and had sex, if what we did is call sex, and I did not come at all. I was so tired and decided to stay till the morning.

Early morning, there was loud bang in the living. Someone seems to to be going like a mad cow outside the room. I asked the boy if he has a boyfriend, he said,`someone who thot he is and probably is not happy that u with me now'. What the fuck!!!!!! What shit I'm in, man!

I was so afraid that he might bashed the hell out of me. The other seems to got out of the house with a big bang of the door. We waited for a short while and I rushed out the house. Thank god nothing happened.

I was still not in the right frame of mind when I remember my car. I call the guy and he did not pick his phone. Tried to call the girlfriend's mobile. She picked it up but off the phone after. Damn! I think I been conned.

The Kelantanese boy called and said he needed help. He can't handle the other boy. What does that got to do it me! Through out the day he tried to sms me and call.

My car is ruined and I got this boy on my back. I just wanted fun. I don't need all this shit man! No more clubbing for me for the next few months!